Tuesday, October 03, 2006

Intimacy in Relationships

Here is a great article by Raymond Chang, dealing with the needs for deep relationships. As he says, "Go deep, or go to sleep." In his post from relevantmagazine.com he says:
Life is all about the people we know and know us. There is nothing more important than those who will mourn at our funerals and be a significant part of our weddings and be present all the rest of the days of our lives. If you really take some time to think about it, relationships make and break experiences; they enhance our lives and give us a reason to wake up in the morning. Relationships are what life was made for.
and
One of the problems that I see today is that people don't have enough deep relationships. Some people have many "friends" or at least people they think are their friends, but often do not attain the highest level of friendship—that being intimate friendship. Many people do the bare minimum in terms of maintaining friendship, often times because they haven't experienced anything else and simply just don't know any better.

Although his article is not specifically Christ-centered (see what I wrote about relationships here if you want my take on it) I think we can take seriously what he says in it.

2 comments:

Lew said...

Typically guys are the ones that have trouble going deeper into relationships. This is specifically with each other. Do you have any insights into why this is? Would you say there is probably a connection between the lack of relational intimacy between guys and how susceptible we are to porn and the fake intimacy it provides?

Vitamin Z said...

Perhaps - probably alot of it is social conditioning, but also natural wiring/God's design.