Thursday, May 15, 2014

Do You Have Your Grumpy Pants On?

Maybe you don't vent--you just stew. A leaking, low-level irritability is a great temptation on a journey of love. You feel you have the right to be moody--you've earned it. It is a way of exacting emotional payment from a disappointing life. Grumpiness provides momentary relief, but it always involves a splitting of the self. I commit outwardly, with my hands, but not with my heart. I go through the motions of love, but anger smolders just below the surface like a simmering rant. . . . The result? I'm split. My will has slipped off the tracks of quiet surrender to the Master, and I'm just going through the motions. Life ceases to be fun. If left unchecked, my inner moodiness begins to distort my heart, and I can slip into cynicism, which begins a downward trajectory into bitterness. 
Self-pity, compassion turned inward, drives this inward spiral. Instead of reflecting on the wounds of Christ, I nurse my own wounds. . . . But self-pity is just another form of self-righteousness, and like all self-righteousness it isolates and elevates. . .  
The cure for a cranky soul begins by repenting, by realizing that my moodiness is a demand that my life have a certain shape. Surrendering to the life that my Father has given me always puts me under the shelter of his wings. That leaves me whole again, and surprisingly cheerful. 

--Paul E. Miller, A Loving Life: In a World of Broken Relationships (Crossway, 2014), 109-10


(HT:  Dane/Tim)

"The Anticipation of His Joy Would Kill Him"

Dan Cruver:
I’ve found Martin Luther’s thoughts on how our inheritance as children of God can help us face death to be very helpful. You’ll find his comments here on Gal 4:7 in his commentary on Galatians.
We are not the heirs of some rich and mighty man, but heirs of God, the almighty Creator of all things. If a person could fully appreciate what it means to be a son and heir of God, he would rate the might and wealth of nations small change in comparison with his heavenly inheritance. What is the world to him who has heaven? No wonder Paul greatly desired to depart and to be with Christ. Nothing would be more welcome to us than early death, knowing that it would spell the end of all our miseries and the beginning of all our happiness. Yes, if a person could perfectly believe this he would not long remain alive. The anticipation of his joy would kill him.

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Wednesday, May 14, 2014

Bad Advice is a Christian Art Form

Ed Welch:
My point is not that it is not wrong to give advice. It is that in our haste and casual handling of Scripture, we confuse our advice with “God has said . . . .” This can be disrespectful because we’ve offered a blanket statement without much thought to the particulars involved. Or maybe the person was not even seeking advice but only someone to listen. We need to be sure we know what the person is asking for before we start talking.


(HT:  Perman)

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Tuesday, May 13, 2014

Monday, May 12, 2014

There is No Recipe For Church Growth

So the church throughout all Judea and Galilee and Samaria had peace and was being built up.  And walking in the fear of the Lord and in the comfort of the Holy Spirit, it multiplied.  Acts 9:31 

Ray Ortlund:
I’m not against strategic plans.  I’m for them.  They have their place, as a matter of wise stewardship.  But they cannot generate the astonishing outcomes described in the book of Acts. 
I remember hearing Michael Green at the Lausanne Congress on World Evangelization in 1974.  He asked us, Why don’t we see anywhere in the book of Acts a man-made strategic plan for evangelizing the world?  His answer: They didn’t have one. 
What then did they have?  Two things, for starters: the fear of the Lord, and the comfort of the Holy Spirit. 
In the fear of the Lord, they were teachable, they were humble, they were listening to the gospel, they were open and grateful and easily bendable.  They did not have a spirit of self-assurance.  They were eager to learn and grow and change in any way the Lord wanted them to. 
In the comfort of the Holy Spirit, they were gladdened, they felt forgiven, they were reconciled to God and reconciling with one another.  They saw their sins and failures, but they also saw the far greater reality of Jesus crucified for them.  To put it in a secular way, they couldn’t believe their luck. 
Openness in a know-it-all world, comfort in an angry world – that ancient world simply could not resist these heaven-sent powers.  So the church didn’t just grow, it multiplied.
Those early churches had no master plan for their future.  But they were walking in the fear of the Lord and in the comfort of the Holy Spirit, and it worked. 
Church growth takes planning.  Let’s do it.  But church multiplication takes miracle.  Let’s be open to what only God can do.


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How to Make the Case for Life in a Post-Christian Culture

Justin Taylor:
Every family and youth group should consider watching this video with their pre-teen kids and older. It is a compelling case for being pro-life and learning how to engage these issues, but it is also a crash course in moral and logical reasoning. 
Scott Klusendorf—author of The Case for Life: Equipping Christians to Engage the Culture and co-author of Stand for Life: Answering the Call, Making the Case, Saving Lives—makes the case that if you can achieve clarity on three questions, God can use you to start a conversation with the goal of at least planting seeds of doubts with those who disagree. The three questions are:

  • What is the unborn?
  • What makes us valuable as human beings?
  • What is our duty in all of this?


 

All The Poor And Powerless




All the poor and powerless
And all the lost and lonely

All the thieves will come confess
And know that You are holy
Will know that You are holy

All will sing out, Hallelujah
And we will cry out, Hallelujah

All the hearts who are content
And all who feel unworthy
All the hurt with nothing left
Will know that You are holy

All will sing out, Hallelujah
Will will cry out, Hallelujah

Shout it, go on and scream it from the mountains
Go on and tell it to the masses
That He is God

We will sing out, Hallelujah
We will cry out, Hallelujah

We will sing out, Hallelujah

Shout it, go on and scream it from the mountains
Go on and tell it to the masses
That He is God


Facing The Church Music

Mike Wittmer:
The wise pastor told his new worship director, “There is one style of music I hope you never play in our church.” She grabbed a pen and asked, “What is it?” He replied, “I will never tell you. If we all insist on getting our own way, we will never sing anything.” 
Few issues are more controversial in church than music. Some churches solve the problem by providing two worship options, a traditional service for older folks and a contemporary one for those who enjoy more upbeat music. This often keeps both groups happy, but at some cost. 
Marva Dawn warns, “it is utterly dangerous for churches to offer choices of worship styles.” She says it divides the church, treats Christians as consumers whose tastes must be catered to, and robs us of the opportunity to serve our neighbor. We should rejoice when a tune is sung that we don’t like, for that is an opportunity to deny ourselves for the sake of our brother or sister (Matthew 16:24). When veteran saints try to learn a new chorus or young people sing an old hymn both are saying to the other, “This may not be my cup of tea, but I’m willing to make room for you. I will sing along for your sake, and the whole church will benefit.” Jesus commanded us to love our neighbor as ourselves. If we are unwilling to do this during worship, when do we think we ever would? (Mark 12:29-31). 
God expects there will be variety in our worship services. He made us different, and He says that Spirit filled believers will variously sing “psalms and hymns and spiritual songs…making music to the Lord in your hearts” (Ephesians 5:19). Our great God deserves to be praised by the widest variety of worshipers and styles. Keep your preference, and keep it to yourself.
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Finding Grace in Our Failures

If you haven’t figured it out yet let me encourage you to see something that will greatly help you. Not all of your ideas are good. Some of them are bad. And God will often let you flail and fail out there for very good purposes. And when you fail do not lose the opportunity to find grace in the midst of it. 
I believe this is especially important for pastors to understand. It’s one of the most important lessons I have learned in 16 years of pastoral ministry: failure is to be expected and learned from. I have misspoke, misstepped, and missed the mark in more ways than I can explain here. And failing hurts. Most of us of are afraid of it. Leaders in particular are afraid of failure since it’s always a bit more of a public spectacle.
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Thursday, May 08, 2014

Kevin Durant's MVP Speech

Everyone has been raving about this.  If you have not seen it, watch it.


You Can't Win The Internet

Aaron Armstrong:
Although the Internet encourages a certain kind of zeal for one’s own views, we should always strive for something better. The Internet is not something you can win, therefore we shouldn’t try.

Instead, we should try to do these things:

1. Take a deep breath. Don’t get your fauxtrage on, friends. Or at least, don’t post/tweet/update/pin/plus/twerp when you’ve got it on. Take a deep breath. Go for a walk. Have a cookie. Get away from your device for a while to see if your rage is legit or you’re just a rampaging rageoholic. Who knows? You might just be gassy.

2. Try to actually understand the point. This might be a tall order, but I’m confident it can be done. A great way to do this is to ask good questions, which also means avoid leading or entrapment style ones whenever possible.

3. Keep our mouths shut. Sometimes the best thing we can do when we disagree with something on the Internet is to just say nothing. This is especially important when we’re dealing with other people who really, really want to goad you into a fight with click-baity blog posts and tweets. Remember, those people are trying to win the Intenets, too. And if you take the click-bait, they win.
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The Best Musical Artist You'll See Today

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Tuesday, May 06, 2014

The Story of L’Damian Washington

Powerful short film here from Grantland.com

Learning of Jesus' Love For His Church From a Nine-Year-Old

Michael Kelley:
“Saul, Saul, why are you persecuting Me?” 
“Who are You, Lord?” he said. 
“I am Jesus, the One you are persecuting,” He replied (Acts 9:4-7). 
I’ve always thought what Jesus didn’t say was equally as interesting as what He did say. To the best we know, Saul had never met Jesus face to face. He had never had a conversation with him; it wasn’t the name of Jesus that was written on the orders Saul carried with him in his bag that gave him authority to arrest and imprison the followers of the Way. Given that, Jesus might have said, “Saul, Saul, why are you persecuting My followers?” But He didn’t. 
So I asked the kids why. 
I thought I knew the answer. It’s another example in Scripture of how closely Jesus identifies with His people. Just as He said in Matthew 25 concerning the least of these, when someone does good or ill to someone claimed by Jesus they are doing it to Him. Given that identification, Jesus of course said that Saul was persecuting Him, for He was there too with the men, women, and children living in fear of their lives. 
But my 9-year-old had a different take. “So,” I asked the kids, “Why did Jesus say that Saul was hurting Him if He was not there?” 
Then a moment of silence. And then, this kid who is quickly approaching middle-school aged, responded simply and profoundly, “Because that’s Jesus’ family.” And I felt like I was knocked off my own horse. 
Yes, of course that’s it. It’s not enough to just say that Jesus identifies with His people. It’s not enough to just say that He cares. This is better. We are His family. And just the same way that I might feel anger, frustration, and a pressing into action if one of my kids was being bullied, so does Jesus. He’s the big brother who doesn’t back down from a challenge. 
Are you feeling that today? That sense of belonging? That knowledge deep in your gut that whatever happens today there is a group of people you can still come home to? And are you then feeling it to an even greater degree, because apart from your earthly family, there is another family and another brother underneath the banner of another Father who knows you, loves you, and welcomes you home day after day? It feels good. It feels safe. 
That was a good day around the breakfast table, but not primarily because I got to see that the Lord actually does move and work in the hearts and minds of children. It was a better day because I walked out of the house that morning feeling like a member of Jesus’ family. And I was thankful for the reminder.
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The Middle Mile

My friend David Sunday recently shared this with me as we were chatting about perseverance in ministry.  This short piece is powerfully written and I know it will encourage you.
To most of us, the most important parts of a journey are the start and finish. But the part of a trip that really tests the traveler is neither the beginning nor the end but the middle mile.

Anybody can be enthusiastic at the start. The long road invites you, you are fresh and ready to go. It is easy to sing then.  And it is easy to be exuberant at the finish. You may be footsore and weary but you have arrived, the goal is reached, the crown is won. It is not difficult to be happy then.

But on the dreary middle mile when the glory of the start has died away and you are too far from the goal to be inspired by it—on the tedious middle mile when life settles down to a regular routine and monotony-there is the stretch that tires out the traveler.

If you can sing along the middle mile, you've learned one of life's most difficult lessons.

This is true of all life's little journeys. A boy hears a great musician and is inspired to undertake a musical career. Years later, he makes his debut and leaps into fame. Both those milestones, his start and his success, are played up in the papers. You hear nothing about the middle mile when he banged a piano until his ears rang; those dull, drab years when he was so often tempted to give it up and be a nobody. But it was the middle mile that made him, that proved the fabric of his soul. . . .

A boy and girl marry. It is easy to be affectionate those first heavenly days when life is a paradise made for two. Fifty years later they lie in the sunset's glow still in love although time has bent and wrinkled them and silver threads have long since replaced the gold. But it is neither the honeymoon nor the golden wedding that tests the lover. It is the middle stretch, when rent is due and hubby had lost his job and the kids have the whooping cough, that tests the traveler of the matrimonial highway.

A man is converted, "gets religion" we say. It is easy to be spiritual those first great days when the wine of a new affection so intoxicates the soul. A half-century later, he comes to the dark valley and a song is still on his lips and the heavenly vision is still bright within him. But the testing place of his religion was the long middle mile when the enthusiasm of the start had passed and the goal was still far away, when the vision had dimmed a bit and a sense of things real came doubly strong." . . .

So in life as a whole, it is not for fine beginnings and noble resolutions that we suffer most today. And nobody needs advice on how to be happy at the end of the road, for if you have traveled well, the end of the way will care for itself. It is on the intermediate stretch where the rosy start gives way to long desert marches, where the ordinariness of life bears heaviest on the soul-it is there that we need to know how to keep the inner shrine aglow
with the heavenly vision. . . .

This grace of the middle mile the Bible calls "patient continuance." It is a wonderful art that few have mastered. It proves, as nothing else can, that character. And it gets least attention from the world because there is nothing very dramatic about it. There is something theatric in a big start or a glorious finish. There is nothing for a news reporter along the middle mile. It is a lonesome mile, for the crowd is whooping'er up for the fellow who got through. It's a hard mile, for it's too far to go back and a long way to go on. But if you can keep a song within and a smile without on this dreariest stretch of life, if you can lean to transform it into a paradise of its own, you have mastered the greatest secret of victorious living, the problem of the middle mile.
- Vance Havner 

10 Money Lessons to Teach Your Kids

David Murray:
1. We are all teaching our children how to handle money. The only questions are: (i) are we doing it intentionally or accidentally? and (ii) are we teaching them good lessons or bad lessons? 
2. However bad your financial past, you can start to make it better today, change your family tree, and leave the best possible legacy for your children – a good example of financial stewardship. 
3. Teaching your children financial stewardship begins with teaching them how to work because work builds discipline and self-denial. Giving our children money without expecting them to work breeds an entitlement mentality. Studies show that students who work ten to nineteen hours a week actually have higher GPAs on average than students who don’t hold jobs while in school. 
4. We should teach our children how to divide all income into three main categories: save, spend, give. 
5. At times we should let our kids suffer the consequences of their financial decisions – if our kids don’t learn how to make small inexpensive mistakes when they are kids, they will make huge and expensive mistakes as adults. 
6. Teach our kids the value of the least used word in parenting today “NO!” 
7. The Five Foundations for teenage financial responsibility:
  • Save a $500 emergency fund.
  • Get out of debt.
  • Pay cash for a car.
  • Pay cash for college.
  • Build wealth and give.
8. You will never get out of debt or build wealth if you have a car payment… Paying cash for a car and buying a used one is the shortest path to building wealth. 
9. If you want to raise money-smart kids, you have to raise kids who are content… A heart filled with gratitude leaves no room for discontentment. 
And the BIGGEST lesson of all in the book: 
10. We must teach our children that they don’t own money—they are simply managers, or stewards of it. Owners have rights; managers have responsibilities. Owners think of themselves; managers can’t. It isn’t their money, so they must think of others. Owners worry over their money; managers don’t need to worry because the money isn’t theirs to begin with. Owners hold with a tight fist; managers hold with an open hand.