How to Keep Falling in Love with Your Husband

This post is intended for women, but completely applies in the opposite direction for men.

Carolyn Mahaney writes:

The other night, my girls and I met with a group of women for an informal question and answer time. One of the women asked about marriage: “How do you keep falling in love with your husband through the years?”

We talked about the eighty/twenty rule, and about looking for ways to show love to our husbands that are meaningful to them. Last week here on the blog we considered the importance of not being so busy serving them that we don’t cultivate affectionate love.

But one of the biggest love-killers in a marriage is sinful comparison.

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"Success Breeds Envy Like Nothing Else Does"

Good word here on ministry envy from Joe Rigney:

Success breeds envy like nothing else does, and along with it rivalry, competition, covetousness, territorialism, and resentment. When there was a famine of Reformed teaching in the land, the rise of new Reformed voices was a welcome sight, an oasis in a parched land. But as God prospers us, and makes streams multiply in the desert, eventually the streams can start to give each other the sidelong glance. Instead of being filled with gratitude to God for his kindness, we become so many Sauls, stewing resentfully as we hear the crowds singing, “Saul has tweeted to thousands, but David to ten thousands.”

Envy is a movement-killer because it makes koinonia impossible. It operates close to home, assaulting our nearest relationships. I’d venture to guess that few men my age envy the opportunities John Piper has to preach at conferences. Instead we begrudge the gifts, talents, success, blessings, and opportunities of that pastor across town or that professor down the hall. At the college and seminary level, envy rears its head when someone else makes better grades, has more friends, is more likeable, is given more/better ministry opportunities, is better looking, more educated, more gifted, more popular, more intelligent, more esteemed, or more successful.

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The Snare of Compare

Jeff Robinson:

Our dear sisters over at Girl Talk late last spring concluded an excellent and insightful series on woman and envy in a series titled "The Snare of Compare." They have made the entire series available available in one downloadable PDF, the link for which is below.

Girl Talk is an excellent resource for women to compel them to biblical thinking on womanhood, femininity, motherhood and a host of issues related to the issues Christian woman face. The blog may be accessed here: http://www.girltalkhome.com/.

The series on envy is available here.