What do I do when people are being censorious with me?

Mark Lauterbach says in part 4 of his series:

First, I have to begin with suspicion of my own heart. Why do I think I know myself better than they do? Why do I think I must vindicate myself? Why is their harsh jusgment so troubling to me when I have already stood before the bar of God and been declared righteous. If their harsh judgments are that troubling to me, then it says I am probably looking for my justification somewhere other than before God. Jesus lived under this reality -- he was always judged harshly. Yet, he walked in peace through it all because he lived to please God, not men. Their judgments of me are a gift to see how I can more fully rest in Christ!

Second, I have to deal with the temptation to judge them censoriously. How easy it is to think I am above censoriousness. I can censoriously judge those who judge me! I can refuse to associate with them. OK, there are certain types of Christians whom I will see in heaven, but I would rather never associate with on earth! My heart despises them. I see them as harsh and rigid and mean-spirited and critical. I can smell them all a mile away -- and all of what I have written so far tells me about my heart, not theirs!

Third, I think it is a discipline of grace to think non-censorious thoughts of my critics -- to pray for grace to increase in them -- to realize that were I from their background and experience and had faced their life, I would be more censorious than they! I need to deliberately make a list of their names and think about what I see of grace in them and even tell them! I need to serve them.

Fourth, when all that is done, there may be a place to speak into their lives. My impression is we must be very clever at this as my censorious heart is rooted in pride and pride means I do not think I have a sin problem here! I am blind. How do I help the blind to see? With wise words that skirt around their pride. This takes prayer and reflection and fasting! It also takes courage as censorious people are not very easy to get close to! It is sort of like hanging out with an auditor from the IRS.