Some Great Marriage Quotes from "Each For The Other"

For the husband:

If a husband is not secure in his relationship with his Savior - if a man nees to have control over another to have some confidence in himself - then he cannot love as God requires. Christ's love is our relational fuel. If our spiritual lives are running on empty, then we will suck energy from the life of our marriages. Men who conform their manhood by the psychological, physical, or sexual control of their spouses actually reveal insecurities of the soul that leech personal esteem from the misery of others. Until the certainty of God's approval fills the wells of self-esteem in a man's heart, he will always be tempted to drain life from others. (p. 81)

For the wife:

It is important to remember that the goal is helping a spouse be what God intends. A wife who is devoted to making a husband what she intends indicates that she does not love her husband for what he is but for what she wants to make him. A wife who marries with the intention of reforming her husband rarely loves him deeply. Instead, she delays giving her whole heart to him until after he reflects the perfection of her make-over. Thus she is forever deprived of oneness with her spouse as he is in the present. A reforming wife dedicates herself to making a man in her image; a biblical wife gives herself to God, allowing him to use her in developing his image in her husband. In this she also reflects and represents Christ. (p. 105)

-Bryan Chapell, Each for the Other


Reviews:
J. I. Packer, author, theologian
Wielding his biblical scalpel with careful thoroughness, Bryan Chapell cuts to the heart of selfishness, irresponsibility, and abuse that mar so many supposedly Christian marriages today. More than that, he marks out the path of self-denying love in marriage with a firm hand, and provides discussion questions to ensure that couples who have read the book have grasped its message. This exposition can do nothing but good.

Dennis Rainey, executive director, Family Life, Campus Crusade for Christ
Each for the Other is a refreshing and definitive look at Gods instructions to couples on how to live sacrificiallyfor each other and for their families. In a day when the world espouses a self-centered view of love, this book gives us the Bibles standards of love. It is a book that should be read by all couples seeking to know Gods plan for their marriage.