As I have written on this blog before, it's not if you do or don't, but how you go about it. Spanking can be abusive if done in the wrong way, but done well, will most likely bless your kids when they are small.
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The vast majority of professionals agree that child buttock-battering isn’t healthy. A marginal few (mostly religious fundamentalists as those at Calvin) think that child bottom-slapping is good. They use the same selective literalist interpretation of the Bible as was used to justify “witch”-burning, depraved torture methods for those accused of sin and heresy, slavery, racism, wife-beating, oppression of women and a host of other social ills.
Again, you have made many claims, but I would rather read YOUR reasons for the belief that you hold, not have to chase down a bunch of articles. So why don't you give us actual reasons for why you believe what you believe instead of just making claims. Then we can actually have something to work with.
I, personally, haven't made any "claims". The small handful out of countless clergymen, churches, professionals, researchers, associations, universities, etc, etc, and "spankees" I've listed have.
I'm not sure why someone would choose to safeguard child buttock-battering("spanking","swatting","switching","smacking","paddling",etc) over learning how to CORRECT and DISCIPLINE their child.
Pay attention to what this reverend has to say:
"The much-touted 'biblical argument' in support of corporal punishment is founded upon proof-texting a few isolated passages from Proverbs. Using the same method of selective scripture reading, one could also cite the Bible as an authority for the practice of slavery, adultery, polygamy, incest, suppression of women, executing people who eat pork, and infanticide. The brutal and vindictive practice of corporal punishment cannot be reconciled with the major New Testament themes that teach love and forgiveness and a respect for the sacredness and dignity of children, and which overwhelmingly reject violence and retribution as a means of solving human problems. Would Jesus ever hit a child? NEVER!" The Rev. Thomas E. Sagendorf, United Methodist Clergy (Retired), Hamilton, Indiana. Personal communication, 2006.
i cannot even imagine the terror my daughter would be today if we had not calmly, diligently, and lovingly spanked her over the past 10 years. i have never chased down my children or slapped them across the face in anger. God tells us: Do not withhold correction from a child, For if you beat him with a rod, he will not die. how much clearer can that be? i will not subject myself or my parenting to worldly "experts" when the Bible will do perfectly. thanks Zach.
People used to think it was necessary to "spank" adult members of the community, military trainees, and prisoners. In some countries they still do. In our country, it is considered sexual assault if a person over the age of 18 is "spanked", but only if over the age of 18.
For one thing, buttock-battering can vibrate the pudendal nerve, which can lead to sexual arousal. There are multitudinous other physiological ways in which it can be sexually abusive, but I won't list them all here. One can use the resources I've posted if they want to learn more.
Sometimes people think that their only choices are between hitting and doing nothing. But this is a false idea. When people have appropriate discipline tools at their disposal, things just go a lot smoother.
Here is another wise and perceptive quote by a spiritual giant, Nobel Peace Prize recipient Archbishop Desmond Tutu (who supports the Global Initiative To End All Corporal Punishment of Children):
"If we really want a peaceful and compassionate world, we need to build communities of trust where all children are respected, where home and school are safe places to be and where discipline is taught by example." Desmond M. Tutu, Archbishop Emeritus, Global Initiative to End All Corporal Punishment of Children, 2006.
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The vast majority of professionals agree that child buttock-battering isn’t healthy. A marginal few (mostly religious fundamentalists as those at Calvin) think that child bottom-slapping is good. They use the same selective literalist interpretation of the Bible as was used to justify “witch”-burning, depraved torture methods for those accused of sin and heresy, slavery, racism, wife-beating, oppression of women and a host of other social ills.
These are some good assertions, but sadly that is all they are.
It would be nice if that were the case, unfortunately, with a little thoughtful research you would find them all true.
Again, you have made many claims, but I would rather read YOUR reasons for the belief that you hold, not have to chase down a bunch of articles. So why don't you give us actual reasons for why you believe what you believe instead of just making claims. Then we can actually have something to work with.
Thanks!
z
I, personally, haven't made any "claims". The small handful out of countless clergymen, churches, professionals, researchers, associations, universities, etc, etc, and "spankees" I've listed have.
I'm not sure why someone would choose to safeguard child buttock-battering("spanking","swatting","switching","smacking","paddling",etc) over learning how to CORRECT and DISCIPLINE their child.
Pay attention to what this reverend has to say:
"The much-touted 'biblical argument' in support of corporal punishment is founded upon proof-texting a few isolated passages from Proverbs. Using the same method of selective scripture reading, one could also cite the Bible as an authority for the practice of slavery, adultery, polygamy, incest, suppression of women, executing people who eat pork, and infanticide. The brutal and vindictive practice of corporal punishment cannot be reconciled with the major New Testament themes that teach love and forgiveness and a respect for the sacredness and dignity of children, and which overwhelmingly reject violence and retribution as a means of solving human problems. Would Jesus ever hit a child? NEVER!"
The Rev. Thomas E. Sagendorf, United Methodist Clergy (Retired), Hamilton, Indiana. Personal communication, 2006.
FYI, I think you should check your settings, the last two posts I tried to make were truncated mid-text.
Here is what I am getting at. You obviously agree with those you cite. Why?
z
i cannot even imagine the terror my daughter would be today if we had not calmly, diligently, and lovingly spanked her over the past 10 years. i have never chased down my children or slapped them across the face in anger. God tells us: Do not withhold correction from a child, For if you beat him with a rod, he will not die. how much clearer can that be? i will not subject myself or my parenting to worldly "experts" when the Bible will do perfectly. thanks Zach.
People used to think it was necessary to "spank" adult members of the community, military trainees, and prisoners. In some countries they still do. In our country, it is considered sexual assault if a person over the age of 18 is "spanked", but only if over the age of 18.
For one thing, buttock-battering can vibrate the pudendal nerve, which can lead to sexual arousal. There are multitudinous other physiological ways in which it can be sexually abusive, but I won't list them all here. One can use the resources I've posted if they want to learn more.
Sometimes people think that their only choices are between hitting and doing nothing. But this is a false idea. When people have appropriate discipline tools at their disposal, things just go a lot smoother.
Here is another wise and perceptive quote by a spiritual giant, Nobel Peace Prize recipient Archbishop Desmond Tutu (who supports the Global Initiative To End All Corporal Punishment of Children):
"If we really want a peaceful and compassionate world, we need to build communities of trust where all children are respected, where home and school are safe places to be and where discipline is taught by example."
Desmond M. Tutu, Archbishop Emeritus, Global Initiative to End All Corporal Punishment of Children, 2006.
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