"I Don't Want My Children To Be Happy"

Great post here from a mother to her kids on why they have chosen adoption.  Some friends of theirs have told them that if they spend money on adoption at the expense of paying for the other children's college, the kids will resent them because they were not adequately provided for.  Read this post.  It it a great example of how to not idolize your kids, which for most parents is hard to not do. 

She begins with this:

Dear Shepherd, Sissy, Maggie and Ikey,

Recently we were told by people whom we love and respect why they oppose our plans to adopt. One of the reasons given was that we would not be able to pay for your college education.

It's true.

You all have college funds - college funds which recently took a terrible hit - but "they" say that by the time you're 18, college will cost anywhere between $200,000 to half a million dollars each. You might as well know now, we won't be covering that. I'm telling you now, babies.

The people said that the day would come when you would look at us with resentment because you had to apply for school loans while many of your friends got a free ride from their parents.

Maybe you will. Maybe you'll resent us. I really hope not. But maybe I should tell y'all now why your dad and I have decided to do what we are doing.

Read the rest.