What Are You Fighting For?

Justin Davis:

When our marriage melted down in 2005, Trisha and I thought that the things that we struggled with, the problems that we had and the issues we faced were unique to us. For the next year and a half, we spent a lot of time identifying our issues, talking about our problems and being honest and transparent about our struggles.

Over the course of the past three years, as we've talked to others, we've realized that the things that we deal with, everyone deals with. The problems we have, everyone has, or they lie about not having.

A few weeks ago, I was having lunch with a friend who was having some problems in his marriage. He began to walk me through their issues, and they weren't unique or different or unsolvable. They were real and they were serious, but not exclusive to their relationship. At one point in our conversation, I said to my friend, "What you need to do is you need to fight for your marriage. You are more willing to fight for your music career than you are committed to fight for your marriage." He said, "It's easier to fight with her, than it is to fight for her."

There is a relationship in your life right now that you need to fight for. Relationships don't just happen, relationships drift. You have to fight for it. What I have noticed about life is that it is so much easier for us to fight for other things, which matter so much less.

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