Tuesday, August 17, 2010

Neither Boys Nor Men = BAN


Darrin Patrick writes:
We live in a world full of males who have prolonged their adolescence.

They are neither boys nor men. They live suspended between childhood and adulthood, between growing up and being a grown-up.

Let’s call this kind of male Ban, a hybrid of both man and boy. This kind of male is everywhere, including the church and even vocational ministry.

Neither Boys Nor Men

Ban is a frightening reality in the church, but he is the best thing that ever happened to the video game and porn industries.

- Half of American males between the ages of 18 to 34 play video games every day—for almost 3 hours.
- The average video game buyer is 35 years old.
- Every second, $3,075.64 is being spent on pornography, 28,258 Internet users view pornography, and 372 Internet users type adult search terms into search engines.
- To no one’s surprise, men make up nearly 75% of Internet pornography traffic.

He continues...
I have a son, Drew, and because of my keen awareness of and pastoral interaction with Bans, I know that my work is cut out for me when it comes to raising a godly man. I recently wrote a little prayer that reflects the kind of men we need. Drew and I pray this prayer together almost every night, for him and for me.

“God, make me a man with thick skin and a soft heart. Make me a man who is tough and tender. Make me tough so I can handle life. Make me tender so I can love people. God, make me a man.”

The Man, the Message, the Mission

The lack of godly men in our world is now a cultural crisis. We are not going to solve the problem by ignoring Ban and hoping that he eventually grows up. We are not going to solve the problem by encouraging women to take up the slack.

We might solve the problem by modeling biblical manhood and calling adult boys to forsake their youthful lusts and become the men that God is calling them to be.

We have Bans in our city, our neighborhoods, our churches, and our families. Ban needs godly men and women to show him that there is more to life than what he is currently experiencing. Ban needs to be more than just a male. He needs to be becoming God’s man who is being transformed by God’s gospel message and is wholeheartedly pursuing God’s mission.
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2 comments:

Kim said...

Thanks for this. It reminded me of this quote on the wall of our pastor's meeting room:
The greatest want of the world is the want of men--men who will not be bought or sold, men who in their inmost souls are true and honest, men who do not fear to call sin by its right name, men whose conscience is as true to duty as the needle to the pole, men who will stand for the right though the heavens fall.”
--Ellen G. White

Dave said...

It's one thing to talk about pornography, but it seems like another to talk about videogames (although personally I find them rather boring and repetitive).

Why do video games seem to be a constant pet peeve rather than say the 2.8 hours of TV watched per day per average person or the 3,276 hours that the average women spends over the course of her life on personal appearance? Why prioritize the issue of video games so much?