Uh... This is a good (and provacative) word from Doug Wilson on men, sex, and marriage.
"In order to be sexually responsive, a wife needs to respect, on a fundamental level, the comprehensive masculinity of her husband. He must be a man, and not just a male. If he is aroused in the bedroom, that arousal must not make her resentment boil over -- 'Why can he not be aroused to do anything else?' . . . Simply put, if a man is not hard working, responsible, diligent, courageous, and protective, then he should not act like he is in the bedroom. If his mind is soft, then he has no right to be hard" (Fidelity
, p. 136).
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alpha-males unite! T
I think that this statement is missing something. Certainly, if the man is not being the man he should be there will doubtless be repercussions in his wife's response to him. But it's wrong for the wife to demand that he earn her respect on all counts before she gives him her respect (and receives him physically too). One spouses's sin doesn't releive the other spouse of the responsibilities (or rights) associated with the marriage vows.
We both need to be more like Christ.
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