Wednesday, March 10, 2010

Mac Powell Adoption Story




I greatly appreciate what they say here (that is why I am posting it) and resonate with almost all of it. One small thing that I am still thinking about (and maybe you can help me think through it as well) is when his wife mentions being "colorblind". I am not sure I am comfortable with the term "colorblind". I know what she means and absolutely agree (color should not be the differentiating marker of love or care) but when we speak of being colorblind I fear that that term can in someways minimize the realities of culture or  might imply that adopting a child of a different color, especially a black child in a white family in the US, is more simple than it might be in reality.

My wife and I could potentially do our daughter (she is black) a great disservice if we didn't fully embrace and Biblically address what the Gospel says about identity, culture, and acceptance so that we can combat all the false messages about identity, culture, and acceptance that she will most likely glean from the culture.

If one assumes (and I don't know whether the Powells are assuming this or not) that we should simply be "colorblind" at the expense of seeking to fully understand to the best of our ability what it means to be black in a white family in America, we could unintentionally do great harm to our adopted black children.  I am simply advocating for intentionality in our communication, cross-cultural learning, and Biblical fidelity in these matters. 

Perhaps I am reading far too much into her one simple statement and I'm sure they are thinking about these same issues in reference to their black child with a high degree of sobriety and seriousness.  But nonetheless, I think this is an important discussion to have. 

As a side note, at the end the interviewer emphasizes that not all are called to adopt but clearly all are called to orphan care (James 1:27). All Christians need to think through what that looks like to them.

6 comments:

Jared said...

I appreciate your comments, Zach.

I can't pretend to know what it's like to adopt a child of another race, but I've never liked the concept of being "colorblind" -- while appreciating the sentiment behind it -- because I don't think God made us different colors so we'd pretend the colors don't exist.

Seeing (and appreciating) that God made all different kinds of people in his image is not racist unless we start prioritizing according to kind.
We're not "all the same." That's not the same as saying "some are better, worse." But races are different, cultures are different, pigments are different, and this isn't something to ignore: it's something to enjoy in glorifying our Master Artist God.

My opinion, anyway.

Jared said...

Similarly, I get confused when some of my favorite preachers/writers, like Thabiti Anyabwile for instance, say things like "race doesn't exist."

I'm not sure I track with that.

Shadley said...

Totally agree with you. The term makes me uncomfortable as well and I think all of us who are parents in a transracial family need to be aware of the difference and seek to understand how it feels to be our child in the circumstance they are in.

Christi said...

Great post on this topic @ http://buildingtheblocks.blogspot.com/2009/11/adopting-child-of-different-race.html.

Lexie said...

http://www.answersingenesis.org/media#/audio/answers-daily/volume-088/p/2

"Race" and "culture" are different things. What do you mean by your comments?

Terry and Angela said...

This is a good discussion and I hope I have something to add.

May I agree with both those who say they are colorblind and those who say maybe that's not a good thing?

If we can be colorblind by letting God remove all pre-judging attitudes we learned before, that's good -- and pretty huge in some circles.

As we continue to grow, we must admit that being black in America is no picnic. Caucasian parents need to figure out how to prepare their children for such a life. Being a black child in a white family is fairly new territory.

We have much to learn.