Recently, someone told me their church had instituted a new “courtship policy.” The policy contains some of the following “guidelines.”Read the rest. The applications of this flow well beyond courtship and dating. This is a big deal.
I assume the leaders’ motives are to encourage purity and protect young men and women from falling into sexual sin.
- When a young man is interested in someone he should first meet with a married leader in the church for counsel.
- If the leader gives the go ahead, the young man should go to the young lady’s father (whether he’s a believer or not) and ask for his blessing on the young man cultivating a relationship with his daughter.
- If the father doesn’t agree, they should wait until he does, unless they are adults not living with or dependent on their parents.
- If the father approves, someone should assign a married couple in the church to hold them accountable and give regular reports on the relationship to the elders.
- The couple should try to discern as quickly as possible if it’s God’s will for them to be married, get a date on the calendar and begin to take appropriate steps toward marriage.
- If they can’t set a date, they should not be in a relationship.
But we have to be careful to distinguish between principle and practice.
Monday, June 04, 2012